Is it Anger or Anxiety?

Anxiety is one of the biggest struggles faced today for millions of people. Anxiety can
be hard to pinpoint as it is connected to other emotions and can be masked under
the false pretense. You can learn to control your anxiety if you can identify
the other emotions it may be connected to.  

People often feel more in control when they use anger to deal with a situation. Anger
is used to cover up the discomforts connected with Anxiety. It is easier for us
to deal with being mad than be anxious or frightened. This is possibly due to
knowing what to do when being angry, but we do not know how to process fear or
anxiety. 

Using anger is a false sense of control, but, it can be used effectively in covering
anxiety momentarily. Anger can be used as a tool to slow anxiety, but it must be
used effectively and under the proper guidance of a
therapist.

 Anger and Anxiety are necessary for us to function in the world. Learning how to
manage anxiety and anger is important. Developing long term strategies to
challenge unrealistic attitudes connected to these emotions constructively could
include the following:

Make a list of beliefs and behaviors that you impose on yourself and the world (For
examples, I’m not smart enough, I ought to lose weight to be accepted, I can’t
do this because of etc)

Practice changing the demands that you put on yourself, which may or may not be
fulfilled. For instance: I must make a 100% on this exam, I must make a certain
amount of money, I  must be a
member of this group to be successful, my life will be ruined if I do not wear
designer clothes, etc

 Think about ways you can help yourself manage your disappointments. Developing
realistic expectations of yourself and others is the key. 
 
Lose the should and ought to thinking
 
Learn deep breathing and relaxation techniques.

Address your fears 

Learn anger management skills

 Take the next steps be gentle to yourself, take action seek
support.


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